Comments for livingsobersucks.com Blog http://livingsobersucks.com/blog You think your life sucks - Try living sober! Wed, 24 Jun 2015 17:48:23 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 Comment on Why I DO & DON’T support AA: by timm1957 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/2011/11/21/why-i-do-dont-support-aa/comment-page-1/#comment-64808 timm1957 Wed, 24 Jun 2015 17:48:23 +0000 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/?p=137#comment-64808 Great post, very balanced approach to the analysis. I first went to aa because i was drinking everyday, most days to excess. Divorce etc ensued. My deal was i no longer wanted drinking to be the first thing planned/scheduled for. I needed the initial 30 day 24/7 approach. As you said, it wasnt aa it was me who said no more of this way of living. As time went on i began to see the very same things you mentioned. I like the comment about being present in your life as opposed to absent in aa. As each month went by i began to taper off the meetings, this was due to what you were mentioning, live became good and needed to be present in it. Then you start getting the cold shoulder at the meetings you attend,but you go on to have 9 years of sober and then i fell off the wagon all by myself. I am working on moderation at this point. I support what aa does in the beginning because i think most of us need the jolt to get going. After the first 30 i think they should concentrate on preparing you for graduation. There has to be a goal of flying with your own wings. Great post, very balanced approach to the analysis. I first went to aa because i was drinking everyday, most days to excess. Divorce etc ensued. My deal was i no longer wanted drinking to be the first thing planned/scheduled for. I needed the initial 30 day 24/7 approach. As you said, it wasnt aa it was me who said no more of this way of living. As time went on i began to see the very same things you mentioned. I like the comment about being present in your life as opposed to absent in aa. As each month went by i began to taper off the meetings, this was due to what you were mentioning, live became good and needed to be present in it. Then you start getting the cold shoulder at the meetings you attend,but you go on to have 9 years of sober and then i fell off the wagon all by myself. I am working on moderation at this point. I support what aa does in the beginning because i think most of us need the jolt to get going. After the first 30 i think they should concentrate on preparing you for graduation. There has to be a goal of flying with your own wings.

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Comment on You are welcome to disagree with me: by bobm http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/2011/11/19/you-are-welcome-to-disagree-with-me/comment-page-1/#comment-25497 bobm Sat, 15 Mar 2014 23:38:21 +0000 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/?p=125#comment-25497 Dear Mark, thank you for this blog. I stumbled on it through a friend. I have to say that it has helped my love, patience and tolerance. I see many opinions with valid and not so valid points ( in my opinion ) and helped me to understand that we all not have the same ideas. It very important for me as a sober person, to learn to respect other people's opinion. For me, it is better to understand to be understood. Best to you. An if you believe in God, may God Bless you and keep you safe. Dear Mark, thank you for this blog. I stumbled on it through a friend. I have to say that it has helped my love, patience and tolerance. I see many opinions with valid and not so valid points ( in my opinion ) and helped me to understand that we all not have the same ideas. It very important for me as a sober person, to learn to respect other people’s opinion. For me, it is better to understand to be understood.
Best to you. An if you believe in God, may God Bless you and keep you safe.

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Comment on Enough of this, “One day at a time” stuff: by bobm http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/2011/11/19/enough-of-this-one-day-at-a-time-stuff/comment-page-1/#comment-25495 bobm Sat, 15 Mar 2014 23:25:49 +0000 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/?p=129#comment-25495 During my drinking days I was unable to make a commitment for periods of time. I would promise my self that I was not going to drink for a week, a month, etc. I was unable to keep the commitment. I was a high level official of a bank and had many responsibilities that I was able to handle. But when drinking was the issue, I was not able to do it. When I got in AA, the concept of doing it for one day gave me hope. Every day when I get up, I make a commitment that I'm not going to drink for that day only. About 30 years have elapsed since I started. I have not found it necessary to pick up a drink. So I can say "it works for me". Maybe I'm different. Different things work for different people. During my drinking days I was unable to make a commitment for periods of time. I would promise my self that I was not going to drink for a week, a month, etc. I was unable to keep the commitment. I was a high level official of a bank and had many responsibilities that I was able to handle. But when drinking was the issue, I was not able to do it. When I got in AA, the concept of doing it for one day gave me hope. Every day when I get up, I make a commitment that I’m not going to drink for that day only. About 30 years have elapsed since I started. I have not found it necessary to pick up a drink. So I can say “it works for me”. Maybe I’m different. Different things work for different people.

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Comment on So this is sobriety? by bobm http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/2011/11/21/so-this-is-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-25493 bobm Sat, 15 Mar 2014 23:10:03 +0000 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/?p=133#comment-25493 Sobriety allows me to choose what I want to do or not do. That is real freedom. I can choose to do good and enjoy the results or I can choose to do wrong and face the consequences without excuses. Ether way, it is my choice. A great benefit of sobriety. Sobriety allows me to choose what I want to do or not do. That is real freedom. I can choose to do good and enjoy the results or I can choose to do wrong and face the consequences without excuses. Ether way, it is my choice. A great benefit of sobriety.

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Comment on What has alcohol ever done for YOU? by jasonnewell http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/2012/04/16/what-has-alcohol-ever-done-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-18854 jasonnewell Tue, 07 Jan 2014 18:50:21 +0000 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/?p=407#comment-18854 I've said this exact thing to several people over the years. Bravo and congratulations. The world is more beautiful without those "goggles", huh? :) I’ve said this exact thing to several people over the years. Bravo and congratulations. The world is more beautiful without those “goggles”, huh? :)

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Comment on 8 Year Reflection: by daisy8ga http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/2013/10/16/8-year-reflection/comment-page-1/#comment-14765 daisy8ga Mon, 25 Nov 2013 01:04:06 +0000 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/?p=62736#comment-14765 Hi Mark- I happened upon your site and thoroughly enjoy it. It articulates many thoughts that have gone through my mind since I stopped drinking this past Easter. The title in particular caught my eye and expresses frankly a truth I initially didn't want to acknowledge-that living sober does suck....but living drunk sucks more. Anyway, it is very helpful to read how you articulate your views and struggles, AA etc. and I will make a modest contribution. I have been challenged with some very difficult family issues during this period (the type that would always exonerate anyone for excessive boozing) and I haven't succumbed yet because of the very simple truth that I know I don't have a governor (that works) on my alcohol consumption and that living drunk was much worse than living sober. Thanks again. Very much appreciate the support words and thoughts have given me and effort you've made to evangelize it to anyone who is interested. Best, FJ Hi Mark-

I happened upon your site and thoroughly enjoy it. It articulates many thoughts that have gone through my mind since I stopped drinking this past Easter. The title in particular caught my eye and expresses frankly a truth I initially didn’t want to acknowledge-that living sober does suck….but living drunk sucks more.
Anyway, it is very helpful to read how you articulate your views and struggles, AA etc. and I will make a modest contribution. I have been challenged with some very difficult family issues during this period (the type that would always exonerate anyone for excessive boozing) and I haven’t succumbed yet because of the very simple truth that I know I don’t have a governor (that works) on my alcohol consumption and that living drunk was much worse than living sober. Thanks again. Very much appreciate the support words and thoughts have given me and effort you’ve made to evangelize it to anyone who is interested. Best, FJ

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Comment on The “Won’t it be great when…” delusion. by Magoo http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/2013/11/16/the-%e2%80%9cwon%e2%80%99t-it-be-great-when%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d-delusion/comment-page-1/#comment-14473 Magoo Tue, 19 Nov 2013 18:30:32 +0000 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/?p=64856#comment-14473 This resonated deeply for me. I needed this. Thank you, Mark. This resonated deeply for me. I needed this. Thank you, Mark.

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Comment on Getting past a relapse: by czabka http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/2013/10/28/getting-past-a-relapse/comment-page-1/#comment-13296 czabka Tue, 29 Oct 2013 13:27:49 +0000 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/?p=63966#comment-13296 Thanks for the post Mark, its been printed and even given to someone that needs to read this - Enjoy your aimless wandering :-) Thanks for the post Mark, its been printed and even given to someone that needs to read this – Enjoy your aimless wandering :-)

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Comment on 8 Year Reflection: by czabka http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/2013/10/16/8-year-reflection/comment-page-1/#comment-12623 czabka Thu, 17 Oct 2013 03:48:49 +0000 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/?p=62736#comment-12623 Mark you share your day zero with my mom's birthday so that is special in itself. Love this post but I have to think that when I read what you said about after you woke up with 1 year of sobriety and then woke up with 5 year's and now today with 8 years its the same as before.......oh no no my friend you wake up with a fabulous mind, attitude, and crazy fabulous body....lets re think the waking up 8 years today as still a non moderation drinker cause like me drink in moderation??? What the hell is that and why??? um you can kiss that mind, attitude and body goodbye cause you would not have any of that maybe a spare tire and not for you sweet ride and your mind nope foggy and tude a bit crabby....take care Mark Happy 8 yrs to you and many more!! Mark you share your day zero with my mom’s birthday so that is special in itself. Love this post but I have to think that when I read what you said about after you woke up with 1 year of sobriety and then woke up with 5 year’s and now today with 8 years its the same as before…….oh no no my friend you wake up with a fabulous mind, attitude, and crazy fabulous body….lets re think the waking up 8 years today as still a non moderation drinker cause like me drink in moderation??? What the hell is that and why??? um you can kiss that mind, attitude and body goodbye cause you would not have any of that maybe a spare tire and not for you sweet ride and your mind nope foggy and tude a bit crabby….take care Mark Happy 8 yrs to you and many more!!

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Comment on Going public: by czabka http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/2013/08/28/going-public/comment-page-1/#comment-10338 czabka Thu, 29 Aug 2013 12:55:27 +0000 http://livingsobersucks.com/blog/?p=45551#comment-10338 I love this blog....I needed to read this today so once again thanks for what you do I love this blog….I needed to read this today so once again thanks for what you do

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